Birth Order Trait..

Does it occur to us that it really determines one's characteristic..?

"As an older sister, I deserve to inherit the wealth of our parents"
"He can get everything he wants from his parents while his older sister worked hard to get something"
"I got our family's matters on my shoulder," said an older brother to his younger sister.
"I can handle these problems 'coz I'm matured enough than you, little bro"
"She can never beat his older sister in IQ test"
"Azmi, give those toys to Elma. You're so calculative in everything with your little sister," said mom.
"Why I feel neglected by our parents? Is it because I'm a middle child among you guys?"

Now, what do you think??

In my opinion, in some way and some how, the birth order trait do really plays its role among siblings. Sometimes, with these characteristics we can notice in older, middle and younger siblings, we can determine what kind of their habits, what they do routinely, what level of their mind thinking, toward which way of their interactions and et cetera et cetera. In other hand, they might always follow this kind of nature order in themselves without even noticed.

This kind of thing usually depends on many ways. It might be the child's growing time and environment, family conditions including siblings, friends, perhaps the toys, the birth of another siblings and the important matter is how their parents expose them in learning and to get knowledge slowly from a little-cute kid. This happens and might exist in everybody's childhood. These factors or natural orders (birth order) might be the one which determine them to become accordingly to their birth order.

Usually the older siblings act like the ways they used to be are normal since their parents teach and need them what to be like:

"Azmi, your mom is working and I need to go out just for a while. Please look out for your little brother"
"Fahmi, take your little sister for a shower. Please clean her up. I need to cook for dinner"
"Papa got sick today and your mama went to groceries for a while. Could you please bring me something to drink"

At the end of the day, they'll just get used to it, taking good care of other family members, being dependent and learn new things out by themselves. Whatever it is, older siblings will have natural feelings that they have that particular responsibilities which might lead them to become mature, flexible in every way of acts and et cetera et cetera.  

While for middle and younger siblings, their characteristics can be determined either by the same factors as older siblings had became or by the natural order (birth order). Whatever they are gonna be, there are always the causes and the consequences in themselves regarding every single factor. It is all the same. Sometimes, when these middle and younger siblings have their older siblings to take care of them in every way, they will always feel comfortable and pleasant. So they will just get used to it and happy by becoming that way.

 

However, sometimes it is also natural and common if the birth order trait doesn't fit accordingly towards children. Some ways or another, the children turn out to be different which mean don't become exactly like their own birth order. As I mentioned earlier, it depends on many ways. The characteristic of younger sibling can be exactly like older sibling's and otherwise for the characteristic of older brother.

There are reasons why older, middle and younger act that way, the way of their birth order. Their characteristics are not something that permanent, cannot be changed or some kind of cursed-like matters in themselves because whatever birth order they are in, sooner or later they'll realize what is the most important matter among them rather than being the older, the middle and the younger.


Thank you for reading this late-posted-entry..